Tomorrow, I will be married.
Tomorrow, June 22, 2018, I will marry Charles Chabetaye Dabah. I will take him as my partner in marriage. Charles and me in June 2017 when we decided to get married. I have struggled long and hard with the concept of marriage, with the idea of being a wife and having a husband. While that is not the language we choose for ourselves, those are the loaded terms that society will now assign to us. I have so much internalized baggage. Since I was a young girl, I’ve always felt I had to prove myself. To be strong and to keep up with the boys. And at the same time, to be soft and weak, a damsel in distress for some man to swoop in and save me. For years, even though my parents celebrated my intellect and the kind of person I was in the world, I still measured my worth based on if boys were attracted to me. I have many fears about being married, chief among them is that I will suddenly become a 1950s house wife. (I have tremendous respect for women w...